He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

[ourcrisis]

Not a very good week. He is still talking to her but he did say he is not seeing her anymore. He came back Monday, but we did not talk about R at all till Thursday. Basically I had all the emotions that I exploded on him. He accused me of not treating him like a husband (not welcoming him) and I said you are not because you are still in a relationship with her and only cares for her feelings and ignored my feelings. I told him marriage is exclusive, and since it is not right now, he is not my husband currently. I am quite sure I got him upset. Eventually we did both calm down a bit. I agreed to try to be more welcoming to him, and he agreed to ask about my feelings often. So far he is very good in doing that (a bit too much, ha ha, as every few hours he asked how I am doing when I am clearly still very upset). I am not very good in pretending to be happy and welcoming around him. Will have to try harder.

I just read that this is a vulnerable time when he is getting over the A (though technically he still has not ended it totally). I just cannot walk on eggshells but I think I will have to. I think I just need to find strength and positive energy from elsewhere so I can have some overflowing positive energy for him.