H got a lot of addictions. The DBusting brought him home, why wouldn't it get him to stop with the OW? Some say can take up to a year or more. It has been going on 2 yrs, but he has only been home for 2 months.
He won't stop drinking, he'd rather leave... I really have been doing pretty good with no needy grabby behavior, he does whatever he pleases and I don't say anything anymore, but I am at the point where I want to talk to him about curtailing the affair soon, or maybe I just feel paniced?
I did kick him out.. feel like I've been there, done that... don't feel like I could handle that right now... He can hold a grudge forever... he didn't speak to me for 2 months... not even the kids... and anyways, if I were to do that again, I know if would be it, we would be done, I know it sounds backwards, but as much as I have had enough and rightly so, he has had enough, too... he has no patience or tolerance... and some people in my family and friends think he is bi-polar because of his actions.
Quite a few people that know my sitch and know and like both of us even his friends have told me they think the only thing that is going to wake him up is if I get OM and turn the tables, they say this will snap him out of it, and I am beginning to think they are right... not to sound shallow, but what I am not getting from him for so long, my eyes are starting to wander if you know what I mean. I am so lonely for the kind of attention he gives her... you know...
Can't give him no sex... that is one of my faults from before and may have something to do with this sitch.
I like the no talking in house in front of kids, may have to bring this one up and tell him do not bring her into this home!!!!!
Trust me I have had many boundaries... he breaks them all... it's either live with them or the marriage is over.. those are me 2 choices.
Thank you, I will take all the help I can get, and I hope it's right about OW doing themselves in... I'm countin on it!
