Lin and 25 - you are both very intuitive women on human emotion and you are impressive...J, I am female.
Tam - I believe that your marriage was sound at first....you got a man, legally...the child fulfilled her need...but she wanted more - control...
Here's what to do to help yourself...go back to the earliest you can - try to remember everything you can about your life up until you met your husband...every detail...do this over and over...as you pull up the history...you might be able to find out the dysfunction...hide and seek - no one came to get you...mother/father walked away from you, in a public place, you felt left behind...maybe you locked yourself in a closet, no one heard you scream...it can be that simplistic. It could be the death of a role-model, grandparent, pet...search.
You'll be fine...catch up on your work...focus on your history.
I'm at a conference tomorrow so I won't be on until next week... you are in great hands with the ladies...they will keep you in line...have a great weekend...smile - it will work out...
