As far as I know and feel, there is no OW in my sitch. Now he had some highly questionable text messages and the stupid girl sent him a card which obviously meant there was nothing going on, but she would like to, she was completely putting herself out there. Since I confronted him about all that and screamed and fussed that contact stopped. I know from a few people that they hardly talk at work even. I asked him about it and he said she stopped texting and calling his cell.

He thinks I overreacted, but he can also sympathsize with why I was upset. He also told me he did not understand why I let her get to me and he does not know what to do to show me he would not do anything like that again. (He cheated before we got married and we were apart for about a year.)I think whatever that garbage was with that girl, its over now. I do not sense that there is someone else. I think right now he is dealing with his own demons and stress. Things from his past are resurfacing that he surpressed for years. I was not giving him the space he needed to deal with these issues.

I think he is currently making a point not to touch me sexually. We were last intimate earlier this week. It is frustrating, but he has been working nonstop too. So I have to leave it to God.

I do not know what to tell you about the ML department. On one hand I know it is considered bad to deny your H because he is YOUR H not the OW's. On the other hand, there are STDs out and about that did not exist during biblical times. I also think maybe if you blow his mind really really good, he will be smitten in lust with you and not even think of the OW. (Ok I was being bad ;\) ) Do you know for sure he is intimate with OW? I know that even Michele writes that we should take every oppurtunity to be close with our S.

I would not know what to do either. I would be really really upset. Even when my H was cheating before we got married. He was only intimate with the OW about 3 times, I know this because the OW and I talked and confronted him together. She thought he had a low drive. SHe told me that they would be together and he would just go to sleep, and not do anything with her at all. It was so opposite of the man I knew. My H was very high drive at the time. We were always ML. So that whole thing was odd.