I just want to throw in here that one source of "variety" in a relationship has nothing to do with different hair color, eye color, body shape. It has to do with what Schnarch calls "shades of meaning" in sex. If your sex life provided adequate shades of meaning - fun sex, raunchy sex, angry sex, freindly sex, romantic sex - props, no props, different moods, smells, lingerie, nudity, naughty language, silence, music, no music,positions, types of sex etc...then "variety" may cease to be such an issue. Guess what - that sort of variety is your responsibility too. Also, if you were done basking in the afterglow and got interested again - did you ever think of seeing if your partner was interested in round 2?
