I do not expect Kevin to keep up his end of this thing. My end is simply watch and see what unfolds, I am trying not to doom anything, but past experience tells me this want to be home will last about 2 maybe 3 days... hahah.
I will not let him hurt me again, emotionally, I am perpared. I will let him go, and I will file for divorce.
I have laid down very clear boundaries, and I will stick to them, even if it means that he chooses to leave rather than live by my rules.
I am going to try this thing one lasttime. The right way this time.... he will be put to the test.
I feel that this is the right path, I just had to find a away to seperate what I feel everyone thinks I should do, and I what I want. Some of things I want include:
I want to be a succussful person (with or without Kevin) I want to enjoy my children grow up (again with or without Kevin) I want to work through my past issues (a huge step was taken when I talked to my biological mother) I want to be able to say when I was called to stand, I stood proudly and did not abandon my position.
I will move forward with or without Kevin, I hope he has it in him to stick around, but I certainly don't expect it.
'lisalost' needs some advice. Her H is leaving her, pregnant, and now cutting off her financial support. Perhaps you could help her understand what she can do right now. You went through something similar and she needs some advice on how to get financial support, and how to make him pay.
Long story short... my H is a crazy #$(*^$#*&#) &#(*&!!!!!
He was wonderful while he was here.... just excellent. We had a blast... it was like old times. He was wonderful with the kids, helping out and playing and everything (which is something he has NEVER done before). He treated me like I was gold. He was here for about 10 days, and "had to go back to work" ... which he had left training to come here... so OK. He called everyday whenever he got the chance (quite a few times some days).... Then this confuses me ... he called around 3A.M. everything was fine... he had just finished a load and was calling to say "goodnight" ..... The "next" morning.... 5 HOURS LATER.... he calls and the first words out of his mouth are, "I want you to file a divorce."
My last words to him were, "I hate you" and I hung up the phone, changed my number, and ordered him on up a divorce.
On some level, I think he KNOWS he's not good for you. Who knows why he said that - I suspect he started back up with drugs, or with OW, or OW found out he was with you, or who knows what.
Maybe he's salvageable, maybe he's not - but I do know this: He will NEVER step up to the plate until he LOSES you. As long as he can still play these back-and-forth games, he'll never grow up.
If he contacts you again, tell him the bar has been raised - now it's FIVE YEARS of good behavior on his part, and then you'll THINK about dating him IF you're still single.
Moving on shouldn't be hard, now, hon - now he's PROVED to you he's not capable of being what you need.
