the answer to the status is that he is with HER and apparently, confused... I say "apparently" b/c of the words he says, and "with HER" b/c of what he is doing.
I'm sorry you are in so much pain. And for the record, I doubt any of us began working on ourselves with ONLY personal growth as our motive, when our own M's got in trouble. Most of us started out with the motive of "getting WAS back" and making the M work, and then when we relaxed a bit, or took our breath, we THEN became aware that other things/people exist and that we really do only have one life on this planet. Taking personal inventory is a big step and was not the first step most of us took when we were in your shoes. So don't feel weak when you say you aren't there yet, b/c you will get there when you see that the counter-productive results of doing otherwise, are enough to outweigh your need for immediate reassurance.
If your life were a novel, who would be writing it? How is it going? What about the next chapter? Point is, the author of your life/book, is YOU (and God). Not your h or ow or the weather in China... so, be the author of Your life. It's all you truly have any control over. All other "control" is an illusion. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
