What makes you think I have influence on my H? I guess I don't see it over his stubborness and super machoness.
Yesturday, I decided to go back to my sweet loving self and "kill 'em w/ kindness" which seem to have worked in the past. I gave him a call at his work (I have not done that in a long time). I was cheerful and acting "as if", but I tried not to pressure him but first stating that I needed a favor IF and only if he was coming home tonight. What is it? I am cooking spagehetti and if you could please stop by the store and buy some garlic bread? Sure, I guess , but don't get use to it,this is a phrase he uses a lot after we had not been talking for awhile and I attempt to be kind and make the first move (as usual). Thanks so much I appreciate it!, I repleid.
As we sat in front of the tube eating ,he was proceeding to tell me something about work when he said "I know you probably don't care,but.... he went to tell me how he made sells of the week for the 2nd time in one month and hopefully he can make it for the quarter and if he does he will get $1000.00! I said wow what an incentive!! I said how great it is that they formally acknowlegded him in front of the others and what a great job he was doing I always knew he would do good w/ this position.Later,before he went to sleep on the very uncomfortable futon, I brought him a matress cover and asked if he wanted it b/c it will make the futton feel softer. He took it and seemed pleased. I really do not try on purpose to make him feel guilty, it just seems like whenever I am beign just me or nice he gives me the guilty body language!
So, please tell me why you think I have a good influence on him?
Reread this post right here. See how when you were nice to him he responded in a good way by telling you about his day? He ate with you and slept in your marital home. He did NOT run off with OW and eat at her house. He probably felt all good inside as he drifted off to sleep becasue you brought that mattress pad.
Don't let his little silly side comments get to you. My husband says all sorts of off the wall things. I am learning to just let it go. When he tries pushing your buttons, you need to do the 180 and not have any buttoms for him to push. You can scream later in your pillow at night if you want.
I doubt your H is truly happy with OW. I have a feeling deep inside he wish it were you Chicki. Why else do you think he sticks around?
