Perhaps the more control you let him have in other areas of your M life, the more he will take control in your sex life. Do you tell him what you like in bed? why do feel resentful for him not knowing that you want some flirting? Did you tell him? do you build up to it? Last night my H went nuts, because of the cute little nightie I was wearing, and he couldn't concentrate on tv. I know he is a very visual person, like almost all men are. Go get a cute little outfit or something, and see what happens. You may have to start it, by being more adventurous. Oh, and we have been M for twenty-three yrs. Do you initiate very often? When he turns over and touches your arm, why wait for him to do the next step? Why don't you do it? If you are doing something in bed that he doesn't like, I am sure he will let you know, otherwise why not assume he does like it? My H doesn't make much noise in bed, and doesn't talk, either. It doesn't bother me. I don't think I could handle a screamer. Forget analyzing everything you do, it may make him uncomfortable.
