Ok, so here's the update: I wasn't going to talk to him last night b/c I had decided I wanted to wait until after today, as it is my bday, to see what he got me. Hoping for a mushy ILY card, but alas, no, a joke card that said "Wife, what would I do w/o you? (inside) I don't know, but I would probably do it in a shirt that didn't match my pants." The reason for wanting a mushy card was at Valentine's Day, we were "kind of" together and he had told me that over the years he had gotten to the point of NOT wanting to get me those types of cards.

Anyway, we were going to bed last night and he started talking about leaving and that it was finally hitting him, etc. Tears began to stream down my face. He said he now thinks about things he never thought of before he was a dad . . . and a husband and people who actually depend on HIM. Anyway, when he came to bed I asked if we could talk a little bit SO I sat on the bed facing him and, again, w/ tears streaming down my face, but not sobbing or anything, I just asked "Are WE going to be ok?" His response was "I think so?" Kind of like a question back to me like "don't YOU think we are ok?" or "don't YOU think we are going to be ok" "what do YOU think." I then asked "what about your 'friend.' Do I need to feel threatened by her any longer?" He said "no" instantly. I then asked "why don't you wear your ring?" and he responded that he guessed he had just gotten in the habit of not wearing it, that w/ all the yard work, etc. he had been taking it off b/c it had actually given him a callus on his hand and held it out for me to see/feel.

He held me for quite awhile after that and kissed me and kissed me a few times on the top of the head, etc. (No ML as he showed me yesterday that w/ all of our 'action' lately, he is actually a bit chapped. Probably tonight)

Ok, for my bday, I got the above card and a CD case. Not real romantic, but he seemed to think the CD case was pretty cool, so whatever. I can't expect EVERYTHING over night, right?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10