I've ordered the SSM book, but haven't received it yet. I have been reading posts and posting in other forums on this site before now.
Basically, I have a SSM. My wife and I have been in counseling for the last 6 months. I was depressed, and now much better. My wife has been pushing me for sex for years. I haven't responded with what she wants. It'll get better, but then we back up. She has been asking my Why?. Why don't I want to have sex with her. I have been at a loss, however after reading the first chapter of the book, I'm starting to understand better.
I have been blaming myself and she has been feeling rejected for years. It has finally become too much for her. She moved out a little over two weeks ago. She says it's too late. I'm hoping that it's not, but I must be able to answer her as to why I wasn't interested if I want any chance.
I also want to know why for me -- I have blamed myself, it may not be a choice that I've made.
I really need help understand why this happens to men. Men are suppose to be "ready" anytime. When I was in my teen's and 20's, if the wind blew I was ready. Now, it's just not there. When we have "done it", I always enjoy it, but I just can't start it.
My wife is also my best friend. I miss her greatly, and pray that I'll have a second chance.
Any help understand this or pointers to resource or other posts would be greatly appreciated.
