Well, I am convinced H has slipped and busted what little bit of his brain he has left.
He was at the house the other night visiting the kids so I gave him his time with them....since he doesn't come over much...and he isn't there to see me anyways. Before he left, I gave him some of the paperwork that the lawyer had given me for a dissolution. I told him that we could go this route if we could agree to everything. He said "You know that I will give you as much money as I can." I looked at him and said "It isn't about the money. It is about the visitation. It will not be shared parenting." At that point, his head exploded. Asking me why not.....well duh?!!?!? What court is going to allow 3 kids under the age of 6 to spend time with 2 people that are obviously a few fries short of a happy meal?!!?? I looked at him and said "Why not shared parenting!??! She has already tried suicide while you were on the phone with me, she is a drunk and she has trespassed....Do i need to go on?" So he begins defending her and saying that she has started going to AA and has a sponsor and has been sober for a month. Well, woopdeedoo!!!!!!! So he basically said he will fight me tooth and nail so that he can have the kids. Instead of talking to me like an adult and trying to plead his case, he showed me the real reason that I can't be with him anymore. He has completely lost his mind.
I reminded him of how he has had every opportunity to come see the kids as much as he likes during the past 7 months and she shows up once or twice a week for a few hours at the most.
Right before he left and while he was threatening to drag this out in court for years, I told him that this is his doing. He is the one that chose this route and he is the one that walked out and abandoned his family. At that point, he said "I don't want to talk about it now." I am going to copyright that phrase for him because that is what he always says.....but then he stormed out the door.
So needless to say, I am pissed. I think I would be ok if in fact he had his own place and could make sure that the kids would not be with her 24/7....but that isn't likely to happen seeing that he can't seem to take care of himself.
I tried to talk to him last night for a few minutes. I told him that we need to sit down and discuss this like adults. That it isn't about us anymore. It is about what is best for the kids. It isn't about who is the better parent, it is about where they will be safe. He can't guarantee me that she won't go psycho again......
So anyways, that is my little update for now....but I am still doing well.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
