I debated on calling and telling him. I was just going to wait and let older D take to him when she came home from college this weekend. I decided that might seem a little hostile and obvious so I just called him. Is this a good form of detachment? I haven't done very well in the past, so I need some good advice.
YoYo, Well done! You didn't want to present the exchange as negative, so you took the initiative of having a straightforward conversation. You also didn't crumble and look for reassurance from him regarding the R. This gave you an opportunity to practice, so that you could move toward acceptance and detachment.
It will be important for you to continue to practice and experience the letting-go process and trusting that detachment doesn't have to mean that he will get more distant. This is a fear you will have to face--though not alone.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
