Yesterday was an uneventfull day for me. I went to church lastnight with my 2 DD. At that sametime my W was meeting with my MIL and one of three people that were going to confront her. I have no idea how that meeting went or what was said. I do know my W went to the gym afterwards and did not get home until after 11pm.
I did have an intersting conversation with a friend from church that I haven't seen in a while. He was in my W shoes at one point in his M. He knew that my W and I were having M problems but knew no details, which I did not go into. I just mentioned that my W is a WAS and then he shared his experiance. He admitted that he would do things that he thought would force his W to end the M. This way if it dissolved he thought it would be because of his W and not him. This coping mechanism for the WAS is just plan sh$%tty. I agree that is one of the tatics WAW spouses use consciencely or not, they are just trying to deflect some of the burden that they are feeling onto us.
Unfortunately or maybe fortunately at this point in time I will not really see my W until next Friday. She is working the next 2 nights and then I am going on a trip for work next week. Maybe the time apart is what both of us need rightnow.
I am going to be meeting up with a friend while I am out of town and going to a baseball game with him. I have been looking forward to this for the last few weeks - it should be fun. Then it should be all business for the rest of my trip.
I am also thinking about meeting up with my cousin one night while I am out of town. I hardly see or talk to him anymore so I probably should try to make a connection.
I start playing softball in 2 weeks with some of my good friends which will be a blast. I guess I am GAL.
I have noticed the last few days that my W mood nolonger effects me like it once did. I guess I am detaching or maybe it is because of our lack of communication.
