I think you did fine. It's okay to pull away a little. I would do that and then every once in awhile surprise my husband with something completely sweet and loving. The thing is, when I did this I expected nothing in return. By that time I believed him completely out of my life so whenever I did something I figured it was only because I felt like it, but I knew he was completely gone. I had stopped expecting anything from him. That's where you need to be.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
