So I see you had a horrible fall out with your H. You gave a bit of details regarding him getting a phone call at 10:30. Is it possible that he might have just said it was her to get you off his back? It is highly possible that is what happened. Considering the buisiness you two have it could have been anyone. Maybe he had plans to meet a friend for a drink. It could have been a parent. Did he show you the phone? So still you do not know who it is and you do not need to know either. He was standing in front of you. So who cares who it was?
You are still overanalyzing. I know this is where you should come to do it. But I am worried you let your mind go a million miles a minute ALL DAY LONG. I used to do the same thing. It is getting more managable for me though. Today when I was at the grocery I got all upset, over nothiong really. Just my own emotions getting the best of me. You see its highly likely my H is having a MLC all the signs are there. Its hard because there is nothing I can really do to help him. Is see him wrestle with his own emotions and past everyday. I just have to have patience and pray for him. In my marriage my H has always been my rock. He could pull me out of my pity parties and help me see the rational side of things. Now it is my turn to be his rock, and unlike me he needs his space.
You have to be strong right now too. Remember you are not the only one. A lot of us are finding ourselves having to be the strength for our marriages. My hear goes out to Lin. She is having a tuff time with her spouse. It is so hard when your H is dealing with mental conflicts that block us out.
You have to channel all that energy you use in the over analyzing and thinking and assuming somewhere else. It is not helping you where you are channeling it now. Right now all the energy is going down a destructive path. Now it is time to channel that energy elsewhere. You need a release. You may need to try something new. I picked up a copy of the Power of a Praying Wife. It is my positive channel. No matter how good or bad my day goes due to my own mental state. I have these prayers I can say to help aleviate that excessive energy. Since I have had this book, I am finally sleeping better. I can get rest. I have not been really sleeping in awhile now. You also need something to give you some peace. Whatever it may be, please find something. That energy can be used in a much much more powerful and positive way. You need something new. Find something new. with the praying I know I am working on my relationship. My H does not need to know now or ever really, I know though. I know I am working on it.
I find in reading your posts you want H to know your every move. He does not need to know your taking time to think. Just take it. Leave some mystery. He does not need to know why you are not talking to him. It does not matter. Your just not.
