Thanks so much AmyC. I want so much for her to heal inside, my fear is that she'll be long gone by then or will have driven me off entirely. If you have time to look at my thread in newcomers (link is in my sig below), now I'm dealing with more of her trying to fix her "outside" instead of her "insides" and need some perspective on my mental retardation.
It is so confusing that she is hurting and needs help and to heal inside and to face her childhood, etc., yet I'm the one that gets screwed over in the process. Not her friends, not her family, not strangers, but me. I'm supportive of her dealing with her childhood and I want her to be happy and healthy, but cna't figure out why instead of leaning on the person that has been there for her and that wants to help her, she kicks me in the crouch.
Thanks for the movie idea, I was thinking of going with her to a more dramatic movie, but something funny would be better. I've taken the kids to see Blades of Glory, but maybe we'll all go again and take her. I asked her today what she wanted to do while she was her and she said maybe bowling, but that she just wanted to relax around the house and not run around town.