whether your H is relieved to get some space to himself and away from you, OR misses you, NEITHER will be helped by you inserting yourself into his space, again.
I don't know 1210's qualifications, but he/she sure (don't know your sitch, 1210, so, no offense) hit the nail on the head with the suffocation/causation. Whether it was developmental or traumatically caused, your approach is NOT solution based, nor is it productive to keep wondering when he'll come back or why why why????? Sorry if I'm repeating myself, but I met a 10 y/o girl at a summer camp for kids with cancer. She said "I used to wonder why I had cancer and I'd ask God, 'why ME? why? why? why?...then I decided 'I just do" and now I'm trying to have fun..." So, let us learn from the words of a child, to deal with what IS and not with what we wish, fear, hope or cannot KNOW. Life is short. Don't waste so much of it inflicting more pain on yourself. Much of the pain you feel, really is self inflicted. Trust God, or the universe, that the love you and your H had at some time, remains and will resurface...if you don't keep drowning it with Needs that Must be filled Now!! "Love is patient..." (Corinthians).
So, now Just stop the nonsense and knock it off. Believe it or not, you CAN live without contacting your husband. When this gets to be too much for you, instead of reaching for your h, for NOW, reach out to someone else, US, or God, anyone but your h. You'll only make it worse by continuosly draining him of his time/emotions, etc. with Your needs...please THINK about this. If you constantly run to him for your needs b/c you fear being without him soooo much that you keep on this path, you will bring about the very thing you most fear; abandonment. good luck, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
