Not meaning to hijack your thread, OG!!!!
This is your thread.

I only wanted to say what has happened in your M has happened to others, not as an excuse but to help you move past where you two are and look for the future. The real future. Not the he might, she might, he could be, etc future.

I like intuition ( thr OW must have been standing by him) but it isn't always right. Intituition to me means "look over here/there for some real clues" not "this is what is happening."

OK \:\) I should have found this forum 20 years ago even if it ddn't exist.

Lou