Could Use Some Input Over here

[Heywyre]

Personally, I feel if you have to walk on egg shells for the rest of your life because you don't want to upset him, then you don't have much of a R anyway do you?

I have got some incredible advice on this board but you also have to remember, one size DOES NOT fit all. I have also questioned some of the (what I would call) good advice and had to go with my gut feeling. Most of the time, my gut knows me (and my H) better than people on this board. Would I want anything different? Of course not. We are here to vent, to bounce things around, to get different opinions of something. But, bottom line, YOU are the only one that truly knows your stich and what will and won't work.

If your sitch is eating at you so much that you are going to worry yourself sick for the year he is gone, what good is that? If you discuss what is eating at you and he explodes - that pretty much tells you something doesn't it? Only you know where the boundaries are, only you can set them. I have a certain set of boundaries. I know they are more conservative than my H's are. But, together, we are trying to work towards a place somewhere in the middle - that's what R/M are all about, two people willing to compromise their "wants" to accommodate the other's "needs"

Only you can decide which way you want to go