IT'S HAPPENING ALL OVER AGAIN!!!!!!!!

[Heywyre]

RGM - you can't win for trying can you?

I think your W has a lot more major problems than her C, her not being able to change etc. etc. etc. All I hear is a lot of excuses and I'm not buying it. She obviously goes to that C because she reinforces what your W wants to hear, which might not necessarily be right. However, in defense of the C, they are only hearing one side of the story also - who knows what your W has told them about you, and your family dynamics

I really don't think there is anything you can do to rectify this situation, not like it is now. Until your W seeks some SERIOUS medical attention it will be like trying to rationalize with a wild animal. There is no way your W is stable enough to be able to get through to her - they live in their own little world, oblivious to the reality that is really out there. I know, I had/have been living that life for the past 5-6 years. Thank goodness my H has finally got some medical attention, is on a pretty high dose of AD AND is seeing a C - both one-on-one and couples. This only happened AFTER he had a melt down. It took me 4 hours to calm him down and convince him to go to the hospital. It was only out of sheer exhaustion and me promising to let him drive to the city we were planning on moving to (some 3 hours away) that he agreed to go to the hospital. Thank goodness he didn't realize what a mess he was in plus I took away the vehicle keys so he couldn't drive. He was in NO condition at all to do that - especially at 2 o'clock in the morning.

It wasn't until my H finally had this melt down that he realized what a mess he was in, and its been almost a year since that time that he can finally say he's 80% back to "normal". He knows he still has a ways to go and we have a LOT still to work on the M and its going to take a lot of time but at least he is on stable ground.

I just tell you this because until your W comes to this conclusion herself, there really isn't much you can do - she has to come to the breaking point. Unfortunately, in her mind, the right decision is a D.

Please try to understand there is no rationalizing with them when they are like that. She is VERY sick - mentally, and needs a lot of help. It is very unfortunate that her C doesn't see that. I would be tempted to report them to whatever society or governing body controls their licensing.