Sooo mad, porn but no sex.

[heatherg]

Eddy, your post turns me into Crazy Heather. I have such problems with this, I honestly don't know where to begin.

I don't have a problem with porn per se. I don't have a problem with another woman catching my H's eye (BUT he better not let me CATCH him looking at her, lol). We're human beings, we're going to be attracted to one another, but I would request that my SO be tactful and respectful about it and I would do the same when a hottie catches my attention.

I do have a problem with my SO seeking SEXUAL GRATIFICATION elsewhere. Seeking it out, not just being caught off guard by someone you find attractive. To me, it's cheating.

I hope you don't think I'm attacking you. In my not so recent past, that's probably what this would be. However, I'm ready to refine my opinion on this matter, to get down to the bottom of why I feel the way I do, so I'm hoping that you will converse with me in more depth on this topic.

Maybe I feel the way I do because I'm insecure. But, while I may be insecure, I feel there's more to it than that because seeking out pleasure from other women, even if it's just pictures of them, is a betrayal IMO. It's a betrayal even on my really good days where I really like what I see in the mirror and am feeling particularly good about myself, so it's more than just insecurity.

Oh, and I'm assuming that you're describing your fantasy, what you envision when you look at porn, when you talked about what the 'actress' wants, doesn't want, feels or doesn't feel. Because, my guess is that very few are as healthy sexually as you think. I just read an article about an editor for a porn magazine-didn't disclose which mag, only that it was a major one. The article had lots to say about the women who pose, but I'm not going to get into all that in this post.