Quote: ----------------------------------------------- I hate this and I hate that I put us in this sitch. I know it's not ALL my fault, but a majority of it is. I didn't realize the damage I was doing at the time. -----------------------------------------------
Please be careful with this line of thinking. Your husband is 100% responsible for the decision to betray. You did not cause him to cheat anymore than I could cause my next door neighbor to rob a bank. Your husband made a CHOICE, a bad one, but a choice never the less.
Your contribution to the state of the marriage is just that, and you are responsible for it. Regardless, he could have asked for a divorce before he cheated. He could have also fought things out with you and worked out your marriage. Those where options for him just like the cheating. He made a bad choice.
It is okay to face your contribution to the state of the marriage. It is not okay for you to assume responsibility for actions not your own.
I am sorry for your pain.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
