My h and I have been having a hard time finding a job for about a year and ended up living with his mom.
In Feb. my H was arrested, not for anything serious, but ended up spending 30 days in jail.
While he was in jail I found out many different ways that he had an affair with someone he worked with.
i eventually confronted the OW, she said they were just friends and that she wanted to help him. My h said nothing was was going on relationship-wise. He said they were just friends, but he didn't know how he felt about me. It hurt, but I held on and hoped he would change his mind.
A few days later he was released from jail with guidelines. He had to have a permanent address and a steady job. We had no address, so he ended up staying with the OW. He also got his job back with her.
I asked him if we were over and he said he didn't know, he needed space and time to think. I later asked him if he was filing for divorce. He said if he wanted a divorce he would have filed for one by now.
We don't talk much, but when we do I try to keep from asking questions. It doesn't work very often. I now know I am pushing him away every time I ask him questions, because he doesn't know the answer.
When I talk to him I usually say I Love You when he leaves and he says I Love You too, but I wonder if he means it.
I have recently gotten a apt. and he says he will come over and talk and we can spend time together when I get completely moved in. I just truly hope it happens. I desperatly want to make our marriage work.
Me- 27 H- 32 Married- 7 years Together- almost 11 years Seperated- 03-07
