Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[Heartbroken]

I agree with ROOT about your W's R being more serious than she lets on. They (WAS's) get VERY good at lying - my H never lied to me in all the 20 yrs that I have known him. His EA turned PA caused him to become a GREAT liar. They know they are crossing that line and do not want to admit to themselves let alone us that what they are doing is wrong. Something that makes them feel that good cannot be so wrong - in their la la brains...

My H told me he did not love me and that I should let him go - they will say whatever they can at the moment. Funny thing is he would not just go out and file - he knew he was screwed if he at least did not end it amicably with me! What he never figured on was that I was not going to give in that easily - my patience outlasted the OW big time!!

You say you cannot see her doing anything why would OM want her - but that's just it ---people usually want what they cannot have!