Could Use Some Input Over here

[RedHeadWife]

I feel sick to my stomach today. I did not talk to H last night b/c he came home in a "different" mood than has been the norm for us lately -- things had been going very well.

I tend to think it has to do w/ the OW (EA) who, if I'm correct in who I think it is, works w/ him and so I think something was said/done yesterday that had an affect on H. He just seemed different, like he was pulling away again or something.

I called him @ work this a.m. to see if he could meet me at home for lunch and some other misc. things and when we got off the phone, he didn't say ILY which makes me think she was somewhere in the vicinity and he just sounded distant, not quite cold, but close.

NOP: need some advice on EA's. I know that I can't necessarily do anything -- he is the one who is going to have to finally see that it is damaging to our R and M and make some changes or quit talking to her, etc., but is there anything I should be doing in this sitch? I still just don't understand what they are still talking about. If he's still telling her things are not good between us, wouldn't that make him feel guilty as things have been going very well? What is it that he still needs from her or is getting from her that I'm not giving?

Like I said, I just feel sick right now b/c I just don't know what's going on. I certainly hope we're not on a backslide or he is allowing himself to go back to thinking that we're not going to make it for some reason. I know that we can make it if he would just put his heart into it and not continue to allow certain things to go on that are damaging us and not allowing us to move on together.

HELP!!!