Downhill and off a Cliff

[RedHeadWife]

I wish I knew the answer to your question as to WHY. Right now, I'm again sick to my stomach b/c I know something happened yesterday in my sitch concerning OW I think (EA) and now he seems to be pulling away from me again and I just talked to him @ work & he didn't say ILY when we got off b/c she was probably right there.

I hate this and I hate that I put us in this sitch. I know it's not ALL my fault, but a majority of it is. I didn't realize the damage I was doing at the time.

Obviously, you need to talk to your W about all of this, but, unfortunately, as in my sitch and yours, she tends to just get angry & defensive when you try to talk to her. It took the D bomb for me to realize how serious things had become and how very unhappy H was.

I admit I was being very selfish in our M. I guess I tended to think that I should take care of the kids and H should take care of me. But then, like I've said before, there is no one taking care of H and that's not fair.

I do, however, still see some of my same behavior in H, but he obviously does not see that he sometimes acts just like I did -- taking the stress of the kids, etc. out on me, which is what I was doing to him.