Cemar, I would just like to say that it's not always the women that go through the type of change where the kids become the center of the universe. In my M, it is more my H that feels that way. I would love to spend time together alone, take mini vacations, have date night. H refuses. It's not always a gender thing. I think it's a form of avoidance, a way to feel secure and safe. Kids, especially when they are young, love you unconditionally and think you are the greatest thing in the world. With partners/spouses, it takes more effort than making a bologna sandwich or buying a toy and it's less emotionally safe.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
