So, are you saying that your wife's friend is getting divorced and her H is cheating on her?? If I found out that one of my friends was having an A, I would certainly not just "accept" the fact that my friend was messing up her life and the lives of her entire family. Maybe you have that all wrong.. maybe this friend being on the other side of an affair can actually lend some insight to your wife... Just a thought/different perspective.

Your W wearing the purity ring is interesting. Has she talked to the church people yet?