It's becoming very clear what her unresolved issues are, and her maladaptive ways of coping. It's going to be increasingly difficult for her to continue on without facing her problems, and learning some healthier coping skills.
CL
Are the unresolved issues as clear to your wife as they are to you? It sounds like she is accepting your advise which is good. I hope she won't resent you trying to fix things for her (giving her the message she can't do it by herself). Continue to be a good (and concerned) listener.
I thought it was interesting that you wrote in a previous note that she wants you to be more assertive about asking her to dance. That seems opposite of her behavior. However, maybe that would make her feel treasured. Hope you will try it on Friday!
My H would be thrilled if I did a whirlwind of cleaning....will have to get busy because he gets home tonight. I need control of part of my life, too! (BTW, thanks for your last post. It was helpful to get me directed toward a PMA. My thread locked; waiting to figure out where to start a new one).
