Will Closure Ever Occur?

[Confused_in_AZ]

Well, I thought I would start a new thread since my old one seems so long ago.

Over the past couple months, I have spent more time with my XW then I have in probably a year. Over the past 5 weeks, we have gone out 3 times, for hours at a time. And each time, I walk away wondering....why are we divorced again?

We have had some great times together recently. Honestly, like when we were first dating.

A friend of mine says that all of this is her testing the waters. She likes what she sees, the changes that she sees, but is not ready to move forward. I guess that makes sense.

I have been reading posts over the last few days that have really hit home. That it takes x amount of time to get through a MLC. If things were good for so long, why not give it that amount of time too before totatally giving up.

Althought I have decided to move forward with my life and to be open to new relationships, I also owe it to myself to keep trying to leave the door open I feel. While I don't advertise it to her, she knows that I am here for her.

Any advice from those who have been in that great big GREY AREA of what are we and where are we really going?