The fat lady is warming up....

[neli]

A lot of good conversation going on here. I have learned a lot from every post.

I am half way done with the D. I assume so as we have a temporary custody agreement filed with the court. It is very hard for me to detach from the person I care about. It is almost like a two fold detachment. I am pretty much detached witht he wife side of me. I don't look to him to feel any one of those needs. And no I am not seeing anyone. It is the friend side of me that is having a hard time. He is having some issues financial and they are mostly due to choices he is making. It is taking just about every ounce of energy at times for me to stop myself from calling him and trying to save him. When I saw him earlier I wanted to give him a hug and tell him that I feel he is not doing very well. IS there anything I Can do to help. But I do realize and know that making a fool out of myself is not something I should do right now. ANd it is not my job to take care of him. Good or bad, all of these are his choices.

So when do we detach in every aspect from them. The spouse side of us, the friend side of us, the human side of us. When do we detach with every role we played in that partnership.

Neli