New Thread ....Possibilities????

[Bislandgal]

Well it seems my PMA has dropped and I feel on a downer again after the positives of last Thursday. Lots of us on hear seem to be having a rougher time of it again the last few days from the posts I have been reading.

In the ‘R talk’ two weeks ago with my WAS I stated directly that I did want to work on us being together and asked him directly to tell me if he was done as I needed to move forward , hopefully together, but if that was not what he wanted then alone. He shared quite a lot and it looked like a glimmer of light was beginning to shine on our sitch . He did not say he was done but felt dead …avoiding the pain it seems . He admits he is not dealing with his emotions and has put a lot of effort into keeping it all ‘locked up inside’

I listened mainly and validated what he was saying but carefully avoided ‘taking the blame’ as he still tends to think he ‘did everything possible to make the R work” (except communicate his feelings ..it seems I should have been reading his mind!) I was encouraged I guess by the tone of the conversation, particularly since it is the first time he has opened up in a big way without looking anxious. When I asked what he wanted to do I was further encouraged by his response that he did want us to date and have fun but leave R. talks out of itfor now . And our date last Thursday was good and relaxed for both of us. The nice surprise of a hand delivered birthday card , with gift card enclosed, the next day was a further positive step..Then on Saturday he came to the house in response to an alarm company call as he could not get hold of me . Everything turned out fine, no burglary , and he checked what he could in the house. Then on Sunday he came to the house and things seem to have changed again as he wanted to pick up ‘stuff’( pictures to put on walls) to take to his new home, something he has not done for months. So now I wonder do I pay more attention to these ACTIONS, suggesting he is moving further into his new home and away from me . Or is what he SAYS real as in “ I miss your company and I want us to date and have fun,” According to DB isn’t it pay less attention to what they say and more to their actions !!??/!!!
Is this MLC anyone ???

This change has set me back again and making it harder for me to detach.
And now silence seems to reign once again . We are supposedly dating this week but nothing has come up.

It looks like ‘ Back in the tunnel again. ‘ Sunday and yesterday were really hard for me and I felt so depressed and sad . But I am working hard on keeping the positive thoughts in mind so today is a better day and I am trying hard to detach . I have a long way to go though. …..’Angels ‘ must have been alerted cos I just had a phone call from a friend who has asked me round to help her with something …just what I needed ..an escape

I hope more positive energy will be circling the universe the rest of the week after all the tragic things that have been happening. My heart goes out to all the families in pain.

Love and light to you all
Bislandgal