I'm glad what I said made you feel better - I know it can help a lot when you start to have little fears so I'm glad I'm able to do the same for someone else.
Yes it is very very hard to get your head around them changing their minds. Like your H mine said some very hurtful things too over the 4 months he was not living with us. Just the other day I had a little bit of a backslide in that I got upset and admitted to him that I worry about him leaving again. He said he didn't understand why after all this time (ie the 4 months he's been back) I didn't feel secure. I tried to explain how the things he'd said had made me feel and he couldn't even remember saying half of them! So I'm sure your H is probably the same. I now think mine had a MLC because he really doesn't seem to recall half of what happened or think it hurt me that much - like err hello!!!??
It must be especially hard with your H going away with work. Mine is still occaisionally staying over at a friends house when he goes on a night out - to save on taxi fares as we live in a village out of town - but he never ever did this before. Like you I don't ask anything but my mind races and comes up with so many scenarios. I think you're right it is best to show we trust them. I know trust was a major issue with my H as he thought I didn't trust him because I didn't like him going out.
I hope you get some romance on your anniversary - you so deserve it. As for the ring. I actually asked my H why he wasn't wearing it - a couple of months after he moved back into our room - and he said he hadn't even thought about it. He never wore it for work anyway and he said it hadn't even really occurred to him that he was or wasn't wearing it. He now religiously puts it back on when he gets home. However before I asked him about it I did move it from where it had been the whole time we were separated and put it somewhere where he couldn't possibly not notice it just to see if that made him put it back on without me saying anything - maybe you could try that if you are unsure of upsetting things by talking to him about it.
Its great to hear you doing so well - I look back at the last few months sometimes and think its so amazing what we have managed to achieve. When I wake up next to my H I feel quite bewildered for a few moments like I can't quite believe I have him again.
