Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

My W has been more pleasant around me now that I have completely backed off and do not ask her about this OM/EA.

However she has not called me in two days (D and I are on school holidays and are spending the days going out, Museum, beach etc). She will normally ring during the day to ask how things were.

We saw her for 5 mins yesterday after she got home from work at 6.30 pm and left to go rock climbing at 6:45 pm (10 min getting ready in her room). Then she got home after 11 pm as D and I were in bed. It hurst to know this OM/EA does rock climbing with her, and the thought that she goes to his place afterwards would not suprise me. Although her cousin say's that OM is not interested in a relationship with W (due to age gap He 27 she 36, child etc it still doesn't sit right that they spend so much time together talking on phone, txt messaging and hanging out (although W says that they are usually in a group environment).

I just feel it is a matter of time before things may progress into a sexual relationship, surely with all the time they are spending he should come around to her wishes (she told me that she finds him attractive, great personality and does not rule out a relationship in the future, however she does not know how he feels about her). I have to trust her on this, as this is the only thing keeping me going (although she has lied in the past, small white ones).

But if she wanted to get rid of me for good, she knows that she only has to tell me its serious with OM and I would be the person to move on, and cut her out of my life completely. She told me she still want's to go ahead with a divorce after our separation, and she is not after a relationship with anyone at the moment, just want's to be free).

She left early this morning for work, whilst we were sleeping.

Can anyone make sense of the above, any advice would be appreciated.