RGM,
That selfishness and "it's my time now" is typical of MLC.

One of my good friends going through it right now describes it like this: "In my 20's it was my marriage, in my 30's it was for my kids and school, and now that I'm 40 it's time for me." So.... this bright, educated, normally rational-minded woman divorced a relatively decent, hardworking, guy who is the father of her children, and spends her weekends looking for a "bad boy" with a Harley.

Yikes!!!!!

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.