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[Heywyre]

Glad to hear your sitch is looking up COG - you have made the leap and it was a good one.

I too decided I couldn't just let things go - I also made the leap and things have got better each and every day since

It is going to be a very slow process for us but I know in the end we will come out in a better place - H even told the C that he was optimistic our R will be better in the end

Our R is something like yours - we have a great friendship, the finances are finally manageable and where we want to be that we can start having some fun together (thus the buying of the Jeep - which we are hoping to get this weekend if all goes well with the repairs).

Opening up to him this past weekend and letting him know everything I knew about the OW was cleansing to say the least, it made us both feel better - he opened up to me too and we had a really good talk about things they used to talk about and how he felt/feels about her now. I didn't know how I would feel about things when he starting talking about her, but she's a human being too and bottom line, he sought her out, she's in the business to make money and he was willing to shell it out. However, I don't begrudge any of the money spent as I would presume most of it went to her children (she has 3) and H said they seem well taken care of (he never saw them though but she had a very clean and modest home environment and she also teaches music on the side so she can be home with her kids so I guess she can't be all that bad eh?)

All in all, things are looking good. I want to go for counselling a couple times by myself though. I think some one-on-ones would do me good. C told H he thought he was ready to ween off the one-on-ones (which is a good sign I guess) but we will still go for our joint ones for a while yet