have you tried setting a babysitter up and ask her to go out dancing/movies, etc etc? Have you told her you find her attractive and she is the woman for you?
The thing w/the trainer is pretty harsh, she is obviously trying to have a fantasy romance, a mid life crisis in the making, when the person only thinks of him/herself and the heck with spouse and kids.
I'd still set up a marriage counceling session, let her know that you'll be going and that i'd be nice to see her there. Don't over do things or make things too easy for her to go out and do whatever she wants, don't do everything at home, she has to be aware that you won't enable her while she has her escapes.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
