Well, here's an update on my M - H and I doing very, very well. No R talk though and I still am feeling very insecure about being "good enough" for him, etc. He is leaving in 2 wks for a year deployment and I'm worried about whether he will be able to be faithful or not. However, I have made the last 3 + months nothing but happy memories for him and since we have began being together again (the last 3 wks or so) things are excellent. He is talking long-term and acting as if nothing ever happened. I have decided to let it go and just trust that he is the one that needs to make the right choices as far as being faithful to me. I don't know that I would DB again if he cheats while he is gone. I have shown him how wonderful our M and family life can be so if he chooses not to honor our vows again, he's gone. BUT I am not going to dwell on that and have faith that all will be fine in the long run.
My H still is not wearing his ring again either and I've chosen to just let that go. I don't even know why he's not wearing it, however, I am choosing to go w/ the happy and quit worrying about the ring issue, the OW and his EA and the fact that he is probably still talking to her as a "friend" and may still talk to her while he's gone.
Our 8th anniversary is in May - although he will be gone for it. My bday is coming up in 2 days and it will be interesting to see what he gets me and especially if he gets me a nice card or something mushy.
Hopefully, in the long run they will realize how good they have it that they have a W who stood by them through all the crap they said & did and remember that the next time they may be tempted to do something stupid again.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
