Dealing with Details....just let it go?

[RedHeadWife]

I think there comes a time when, as hard as it may be, we need to just LET IT GO. We need to get it through to ourselves that, since we chose this road, to forgive, we need to forget and let it go. If we truly want to work out the M and stay w/ our (cheating) H, we are going to have to let it go. No more snooping, no more wondering, just let it go and get on w/ life.

It is a choice they are going to have to make in the long run. I would like to believe that, if we put our efforts into our M and quit worrying about OW or if H is going to cheat again, we will give our H's all that they need to make the choice not to cheat again. They may be faced w/ the decision at some point whether to cheat again or not, but hopefully at that point they will consider what they have and know that it's not worth it and MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE. That's how I'm going to look at it from now on! I can't sit here worrying that H may cheat the whole year he's gone or I will end up ruining my M by saying or doing something stupid that would come out of that thinking. I need to remember that I worked damn hard to get him to stay and hopefully that is what he is going to think about and all the good times we've had since he decided to stay when he is faced w/ a decision like that again.