Now she is considering sending VIDEO of herself masturbating, etc.
How do you find these things out? Just curious...bnot snooping are you?
Okay your MIL: Always listen to what someone is saying before determining whether what they have to say is valid. Can you tell us what she said? And then yes, take her with a grain of salt. But you did not describe he comment as against you and in support of your wife...it came off as her way of offering advice. And that is a nice thing--whether you take it or leave it.
Now about your wife not ever being able to talk dirty with you...
I married a prude too.
It is the fantasy thing. Sweetheart as admitted (something that he unknowingly said in the beginning also) that he thought the OW was wild...and he sought her for that experience. Sweetheart is at heart a 'good catholic boy.' You don't marry wild, you f*&k wild. It was never meant to be serious...though they get sucked into it being that way.
Ironically I don't think the OW was so much Wild as she wasTrashy...and Sweetheart sterotyped those together. Sure she's a bit wild, but I don't think she wants to be. She just hasn't sought a lifestyle that will pull her out of the trash.
Your wife needs to have these fantasies and she absolutley is unable include you. This isn't about you being an authority figure like a parent (yuck), but that you are the good guy, and she fears disappointing and being judged by you.
Hey, I've got fantasies...and I really fear sharing them with Sweetheart...or anyone else for that matter. They are not based inreality and not anything I want to actually happen.
Sometimes MLCer try ti live out there fantasies completely, and sometimes they are only able to act them out--texting and verbalizing rather than physical. And things can go to the physical level too...we just don't know.
MLCers become their opposite. They become WILD.
I too wonder about this particular OM being a stalker or pedophile--if things are that graphic. I would like to hear what others think about you doing some research on him. But what then...if you find out he is a rapist or something> How to let her find out without letting on you checked up?
