Virginia, You are so right about the spoiled brat syndrome. I have often thought that about my ownself during all of this. I was an only child in a middle class family. I had wonderful parents and always got what I needed and most of the time what I wanted. Nothing really bad ever happened to me until the death of my mother. I have always been so used of everything working out for me. So when my H walked out, I couldn't believe and just knew he would come home soon. Well, it's been 6 months and he's still not home. At times I do okay DBing and then I backslide.
2, You are not alone wanting everything your way, but please calm down. We are not going to get them that way. We have to show them that we can stand on our own two feet. I've done better, but I know I have a ways to go. Begging, pleading, and demanding will not get us anywhere. We have to leave that up to the OW. We have to make ourselves strong and desirable. Hang in there.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
