Guys, thanks so much for coming by. The last few days have been especially difficult. It's because I think that this whole sitch hit me Thursday...and that I'd been walking in a somewhat shocked daze up until then. Had an interesting conversation last night, but will post that soon.

Quoting LL:
ok, are you sure your w and my h aren't talking to each other???
Maybe they are... Nice to know that my sitch is not unique in terms of starting young. Basically, my W and I were 15 and 16 when we met, but were good friends for a while before actually dating (although I always had a thing for her during that time).

Quoting RJJ:
Has your W continued to read DR? I wonder how realistic her definition of lasting, committed love is? (does she watch a lot of chick flicks?). And does she know that love is a decision? I think she must know these things, because although she sounds somewhat tentative at times, she is doing all the right things to nurture your R now.
She has not finished DR; however, she did read the infidelity chapter. If I asked her to read it though, I think she would. I did get her to start reading Love Languages because it talks about how love is a choice and that we have to continuously work on that choice. BTW, she is into "romantic comedies" but I think does not hold very many illusions about it. I would almost say, I'm more of a hopeless romantic than she...

Quoting Jim:
Don't underestimate the power of friendship. It is a very powerful thing. Deep down, she knows that you will always be there for her, no matter what. You've definitely proven that in recent weeks. J, she's just as confused as you are right now. You CAN get the passion back. There are so many ways of doing it, if you are both willing. And that's the real beauty of it. YOU ARE BOTH WILLING!!
Agreed, Jim. I know that the friendship is an excellent foundation to begin anew. I also see how much more powerful things can be if we both work on them. Just, right now, I feel like we're in a lull because of her A and having to deal with all of those feelings. She hates herself for it and I'm trying to deal with the fact that nothing I can do will change the fact that it happened. I'm trying, but for right now, that's all I can do. Heck, I've only known for two weeks now (for sure anyway, as I'd always suspected).

Quoting J-Ro:
BTW I saw a book at Barns and Noble, "1001 Romantic ideas", I wanted to get it because I'm a caveman when it comes to love ideas", It has lots of stupid silly "love kindling" ideas in it. I think that you just need the right combonation of fuels to go get her Passion lite!
Not a bad suggestion, J-Ro. I think she'd appreciate little notes and stuff, but I'm pretty sure her love language is "acts of service" so I'm going to be one busy guy doing the darn housework. Did dishes and vacuumed yesterday in an attempt to touch that "language."

Thanks for your support guys. I'll have to make my post later, as my W just came home from a walk and I think she needs some comforting. I'll also try and catch up on everyone else.

jethro