Sorry Jeanette. I'll take my spanking like a big boy. I was being cynical.
I have had enough of our spouses acting out like juveniles and refusing take ownership of their actions. I have earned so many new labels over the past few weeks that I don't know if I have a single redeeming quality left!
Seriously, Strug. You need to draw some lines, establish your boundaries and decide where it ends. I certainly can't tell you where that should be, but at some point you need to hold your ground.
Ultimatums won't work. Believe me, I tried and it went to the next extreme.
From where it sounds like you are right now, I think you are trying to rescue her. DON'T!
Her actions are intentional and it will not get you anywhere. Turn the other way and let her go.
Detach! (MY own weak point.) It's the only way you will stay sane. Get out there and find something, anything to do with the time that she used to fill, and when she tries to rope you back in, resist. Make yourself the prey instead of the predator. You are the prize here, not her.
At this point, she is a despicable, self-centered succubus. Don't allow her to consume your soul.
Good luck and God bless, Moon
Argue your limitations and sure enough, they are yours. - Richard Bach
