Chicki, You really need to stop provoking him. My life became so much easier when I stopped (for the most part!) jumping at every chance to verbally attack my H. You and your H are attacking each other and that needs to stop if you are going to move forward. So, Chicki - YOU need to be the one to stop attacking and defending.. Do you think you can start doing that? If he attacks and you need to respond, do so in a controlled manner without attacking back..
Take care of your girls. Don't let him use them as pawns in the middle of what is going on between the two of you.
