I think you need to be real careful about pushing her to get a job/hobby/whatever. You know she needs to, and more importantly, SHE knows she needs to. I would leave it at that. What I think you should do is if she does find something to do, no matter how insignificant or uninteresting it may be to you, give her 100% support and encouragement for it. That will make her feel better about it, and it might just help you heal your wounds a little bit faster.

Jim

I know God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much.