I have been reading through the threads and current posts this morning and my heart feels so heavy seeing everyone's pain.
Lately it seems like there is a storm brewing in the air and so many people are under attack.
One of the things that really concerns me is that there is so much focus on OW/OM.
I thought maybe this thread can just be for venting about the other person and maybe your own threads could start being a little more positive without being mucked up by thoughts of the other person.
So many of you have been doing wonderful things and have overcome so much during this MLCBS.
Other then a few bumps in the road, most of the children seem to be doing better then just OK.
There really are many positives in so many of your lives, loads of baby steps and some huge leaps!
Can we spend a little time dwelling on the good stuff too?
(((((((((hugs))))))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
funny, you were posting this while I was saying something similar on my own thread.
I'll start the venting.
I hate the idea that OW is ingratiating herself with S14. I hate the idea that I will have to deal with OW because of S14. I hate the idea that she is little more than a prostitute--paid to see that the way is smoothed for H and that his career needs are met, with no reciprocal requirement that he consider her career needs as independent from his own. I think her morals are awful--she jumped right in knowing full well we have a son, and having no reason to believe that I wanted out of our M. I think she is awful and questionably stable, no children, very shaky first M, no friends. I think she is using H, and he is using her. Bleh. I wish she'd go back to Iowa.
Why cant they go away????? Our H's cant begin the work to be done til they are gone....I dont know why as of late..I have horrible dreams about it..am sad and cry....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I think she is awful and questionably stable, no children, very shaky first M, no friends. I think she is using H, and he is using her.
I couldn't agree more. My xH still won't admit his relationship to the woman he "boards" with. She was never stable, never in a long term relationship, never married, no kids, no friends, 50 some odd years old and about 100 or more pounds overweight. What a winner. But at least in compared to her, xH can feel like he is higher up in the pecking order.
And to think, he gave up the respect of his children, his relationship with them, a wife who loved him, and financial security!!
Why cant they go away????? Our H's cant begin the work to be done til they are gone....I dont know why as of late..I have horrible dreams about it..am sad and cry....
Agreed and in my sitch, OW works just across the door from H's office so they are virtually together 24/7.
I think people struggle with this because there are so many people who just do not care and only think about fulfilling their own needs and use people as a result. They do not care about kids or wives.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Pathetic is how I would descibe them. There comes a time when these ops need to face reality and see that the r they are in is not real and that they are wasting their time.
My h has been with ow for a year now. I am sure he lied to her about a d etc. but still no d, and they do not live together. There is no progress in their r. Furthermore she is being step mom to my children. They are not her children. So what does she have? My h who is not committed to her. If she saw him around me and some of the stuff he does. My children who will never be her children. What kind of life is that?
I really feel sorry for her.
I can't believe that she does not sense that something is not right in her r with my h. But they are all in denial!!!
The OW in my H life sees him everyday. I take comfort in the fact that nobody likes her and she isn't very pretty at all! It will be a struggle if my H stays with her because it has already ruined his reputation at the place he spends most of his time. I have told her to Please, just go away!!! She is a homewrecker!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
