Have you read the book "love must be tough" by Dobson? It helps to cope, when they leave or distance themselves from the relationship and on the website family.org they have lots of materials which are also very helpful. You know, if it wasn't for my child, I don't think I would remain in this relationship and if I ever feel that it's affecting my child, I will leave. I know the stats say it's better for the children to stay together but for them to see the misery I personally don't think that's healthy and seeing how it's affected my husband? I don't know which I think is worse. I am looking for a counselor right now. I can't take living like a roomate, it's killing me. Even so, I'm still praying for a miracle and I'll keep you in my prayers as well. Take care
