Ok how about I handle the PA thing and you handle the validation thing?
You are being to hard on yourself about getting past this PA. You just found out about it. It does take time. She is not ready to deal w/it and may never deal w/the issues the way you want her too. This maybe hard to swallow but getting past this is a decision that you have to make and then stand by. She has said she is sorry and will never do it again. She is embarrassed by what she has done. A normal reaction when you have done something stupid is to put it in the past and never mention it again. She wants to move on with you. Her actions over time will validate this for you. She is never going to kiss your a$$ and after awhile you wouldnt want that anyway. Here is a suggestion that you really need to consider. Get away for the weekend. Go see a friend or family but go somewhere. You need to reflect on how far you have come and decide what goals you need to work towards. How I wish my H would say and do all that your W has said and done. I bet a want point that was all you wanted too. Remember it all takes time.
Did the yoga help clear your mind? Keep your chin up. A
