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DITTO TabD!!! Millymoose, this is GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so happy for you! Keep your expectations to zero and don't backslide now.

Keep us informed! And good luck!


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mm,

Things sound good. Just remember, caution and no expectations. I know you know, but we all need to be told over, and over.....
Hopefully, DD will continue with his clingyness.

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WOW!!!!!!


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Anyway enough for now...I am sure you wished you had never asked!!!


Shut up.

AND

I told you so <smug grin>



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Well today is the day of DD's return and I am having a bit of a downer.

Saw W last night with Sam at her house and had a couple of beers and she said 'Well all back to how it was this weekend with Dave back, when do you want Sam this weekend if at all as you have seen so much of him'

She did have a couple of digs at him and how 'goody goody' he was and that he is bringing Sam back some presents but they are things he no longer likes!!

She told me that she had told DD that I am first priority as far as Sam is concerned and that he cannot come up during the week if I am picking Sam up from school

It just seems that she has already forgotten the last 3 weeks and all the critical things that she had said about nobhead!!

Guys stop me backsliding now!! I guess I need to detach again but I am so scared that after all the great times we are back in limbo


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Bad night....very teary. Don't think this is going to be a good weekend.


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Milly you already know that you are going to back slide so stop yourself.

Let DD be clingy and overbearing...please trust me on this. Take deep breathes and do not be him. Be you. Be the guy who is strong and solid.

Cowboy up.



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mm,

As much as it stinks you can be the rock. Jack is right, let DD be the clingy one.

You can do this.

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Thanks guys much appreciated!

Very odd this morning, I got into my office and got a text from wife just saying 'You Ok?'

I think my mood last night was not the best DB'ing in the world and she could tell I was a bit down but hey at least she asked how I was!!!

As you all say 'stay strong'


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Well Well Well!!!

Got jokey text tonight not in character. Picked my Son up from school and went round and she asked me to get some beers.

Anyway she seemed a bit distant and then dropped the bombshell that she HAD CALLED A BREAK WITH DAVE DICK!!!!!

Oh my god I was over the moon but did not show it and acted concerned. I then said I would take Sam out tomorrow to see his brother BUT sent the text to my W by mistake!!!! Calling 'Dave' 'Dick'. Obviously W got it and was not brst pleased.........gives it to me on a platter and I f#$k up!!!

She said that all this does not mean she has feelings for me and that 'tha break' may be a week or it may be 6 months but that she has not forgotten DD completely!!!

HELP Guys!!!!


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